Thursday, November 29, 2012

I wish you enough ...

So much has happened ... and yes, I am more active on my facebook page than I am blogging anymore ... sorry :(

My mom just got back last Thursday/Thanksgiving from visiting her mom in the Philippines. She has been wanting to go and visit her mom whose health has not been good and who has alzheimer's but has not been able to go because of her own health issues and also because she has been worried about me and my cancer. Since I had been doing good since my last bout with cancer in April she decided it was okay for her to go and visit her mom which I am very happy she did. It was also a sad time as she went for her aunt's funeral but a happy time as she got to see many of her relatives. When she came back she noticed I had lost some weight. We went to see my doctor on Monday and had chest x-rays done ... the cancer has metastasized to my lungs. I keep telling mom everything will be okay and I remember what my friend 'M' in hospice always told us when we walked the final journey with her ... "I've had a good life." I tell mom the same thing ... "I've had a good life."

This was posted on facebook this morning and I thought it was perfect so had to share ....

Recently, I overheard a mother and daughter in their last moments together at the airport as the daughter's departure had been announced. Standing near the security gate, they hugged and the mother said:

"I love you and I wish you enough."

The daughter replied, "Mom, our life together has been more than enough. Your love is all I ever needed. I wish you enough, too, Mom." They kissed and the daughter left.

The mother walked over to the window where I sat. Standing there, I could see she wanted and needed to cry.

I tried not to intrude on her privacy but she welcomed me in by asking, "Did you ever say good-bye to someone knowing it would be forever?" "Yes, I have," I replied. "Forgive me for asking but why is this a forever good-bye?"

"I am old and she lives so far away. I have challenges ahead and the reality is the next trip back will be for my funeral," she said.

When you were saying good-bye, I heard you say, "I wish you enough." May I ask what that means?"

She began to smile. "That's a wish that has been handed down from other generations. My parents used to say it to everyone." She paused a moment and looked up as if trying to remember it in detail and she smiled even more.

"When we said 'I wish you enough' we were wanting the other person to have a life filled with just enough good things to sustain them". Then turning toward me, she shared the following, reciting it from memory,

"I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright.

I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun more.

I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive.

I wish you enough pain so that the smallest joys in life appear much bigger.

I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.

I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess.

I wish you enough hellos to get you through the final good-bye."

She then began to cry and walked away.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person. An hour to appreciate them. A day to love them. And an entire life to forget them.

- Author Unknown